Comments on: deprecating the self http://www.lionandmagicboy.com/2007/05/23/deprecating-the-self/ now with bigger words Sat, 13 Feb 2010 13:13:16 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: mike http://www.lionandmagicboy.com/2007/05/23/deprecating-the-self/comment-page-1/#comment-654 mike Mon, 04 Jun 2007 12:11:40 +0000 http://www.lionandmagicboy.com/2007/05/23/deprecating-the-self/#comment-654 I think self-deprecation has come into vogue, in a way that cannot be healthy for people (I won't get all diatribey here, I promise) -- but I like the way you've personalized the issue here without going off the deep end :) Also (and I swear this isn't supposed to sound like spam), but have you heard of Indie Bloggers? You might have seen something like it over at Jason's spacemonkeypants site. Well I'm sort of a content hunter for them (I'm also a member!). This post, and actually a lot of your stuff, would be very good additions to the Indie Blogger community. If you feel like joining and contributing stuff like this post, let me know! -Mike Oh! http://www.indiebloggers.org I think self-deprecation has come into vogue, in a way that cannot be healthy for people (I won’t get all diatribey here, I promise) — but I like the way you’ve personalized the issue here without going off the deep end :)

Also (and I swear this isn’t supposed to sound like spam), but have you heard of Indie Bloggers? You might have seen something like it over at Jason’s spacemonkeypants site. Well I’m sort of a content hunter for them (I’m also a member!). This post, and actually a lot of your stuff, would be very good additions to the Indie Blogger community. If you feel like joining and contributing stuff like this post, let me know!

-Mike
Oh! http://www.indiebloggers.org

]]> By: Gray http://www.lionandmagicboy.com/2007/05/23/deprecating-the-self/comment-page-1/#comment-637 Gray Fri, 25 May 2007 14:15:04 +0000 http://www.lionandmagicboy.com/2007/05/23/deprecating-the-self/#comment-637 I don't know. Maybe you should listen more closely. Your mistress just might be able to give you the clues you need to really end that fear of not being enough. If you run from that fear, instead of face it, you might just end up doing things from the fear of not being enough. You know precipitate knee-jerk type things that only end up causing you to do just the kind of things that deep down inside you, you wish you hadn't. Because once you have done them, you then have to begin the same-old/same-old task of justifying them, to yourself and to those who you acted that way towards and thus, your mistress remains with a strangle hold on you. I think its better to face the mistress with a clean really intense self-study using the honest approach. It'll be scary but you'll come out clean. Run, and she remains the monkey on your back. I don’t know. Maybe you should listen more closely. Your mistress just might be able to give you the clues you need to really end that fear of not being enough. If you run from that fear, instead of face it, you might just end up doing things from the fear of not being enough. You know precipitate knee-jerk type things that only end up causing you to do just the kind of things that deep down inside you, you wish you hadn’t.

Because once you have done them, you then have to begin the same-old/same-old task of justifying them, to yourself and to those who you acted that way towards and thus, your mistress remains with a strangle hold on you. I think its better to face the mistress with a clean really intense self-study using the honest approach. It’ll be scary but you’ll come out clean.

Run, and she remains the monkey on your back.

]]> By: Judith B http://www.lionandmagicboy.com/2007/05/23/deprecating-the-self/comment-page-1/#comment-635 Judith B Fri, 25 May 2007 01:11:29 +0000 http://www.lionandmagicboy.com/2007/05/23/deprecating-the-self/#comment-635 Ah, but you've recognized her! And as you've written, that is the beginning to her end. Keep arguing with her; when she whispers those lies into your ear (and they ARE lies!), come back with something positive about yourself. [Hint: Write yourself a list of positive things to say about yourself, and make sure you believe them, or they won't work.] When you first start doing this, she will get more insistent. But keep at it, because eventually she won't show up as often. Then she will get even sneakier, and come up with new lines to whisper in your ear. Keep responding with the positive things, and don't engage in argument with her. As another has written, she probably won't completely go away. But eventually she will pose less of a threat. Keep fighting her! Ah, but you’ve recognized her! And as you’ve written, that is the beginning to her end. Keep arguing with her; when she whispers those lies into your ear (and they ARE lies!), come back with something positive about yourself. [Hint: Write yourself a list of positive things to say about yourself, and make sure you believe them, or they won't work.] When you first start doing this, she will get more insistent. But keep at it, because eventually she won’t show up as often. Then she will get even sneakier, and come up with new lines to whisper in your ear. Keep responding with the positive things, and don’t engage in argument with her. As another has written, she probably won’t completely go away. But eventually she will pose less of a threat. Keep fighting her!

]]> By: Over-Educated, Under-Accomplished http://www.lionandmagicboy.com/2007/05/23/deprecating-the-self/comment-page-1/#comment-634 Over-Educated, Under-Accomplished Thu, 24 May 2007 23:44:12 +0000 http://www.lionandmagicboy.com/2007/05/23/deprecating-the-self/#comment-634 "tells me that I shouldn't even bother thinking about maybe someday saving money to perhaps go back to school. . . I have GOT to break up with her." You can't break up with her. She'll follow you to school. Preview: even the second graduate level degree isn't enough to finally Be Enough. “tells me that I shouldn’t even bother thinking about maybe someday saving money to perhaps go back to school. . . I have GOT to break up with her.”

You can’t break up with her. She’ll follow you to school. Preview: even the second graduate level degree isn’t enough to finally Be Enough.

]]> By: jennifergg http://www.lionandmagicboy.com/2007/05/23/deprecating-the-self/comment-page-1/#comment-633 jennifergg Thu, 24 May 2007 23:24:22 +0000 http://www.lionandmagicboy.com/2007/05/23/deprecating-the-self/#comment-633 Ooooh. The one who lives at my house is Fear of Being Disappointing. Ack. What a difficult houseguest she is...now, how to evict her? Ooooh. The one who lives at my house is Fear of Being Disappointing. Ack. What a difficult houseguest she is…now, how to evict her?

]]> By: Susan http://www.lionandmagicboy.com/2007/05/23/deprecating-the-self/comment-page-1/#comment-632 Susan Thu, 24 May 2007 21:51:57 +0000 http://www.lionandmagicboy.com/2007/05/23/deprecating-the-self/#comment-632 She's two timing you. She lives with me as well. What a BITCH, tells me that I shouldn't even bother thinking about maybe someday saving money to perhaps go back to school. . . I have GOT to break up with her. She’s two timing you. She lives with me as well. What a BITCH, tells me that I shouldn’t even bother thinking about maybe someday saving money to perhaps go back to school. . . I have GOT to break up with her.

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